The holidays are almost here and I thought I would check in and see how you’re doing?
How do you do the holidays? Is it the “most wonderful time of the year” or are you stressed to your ears?
WE ARE SO BUSY GETTING TO WHERE WE ARE GOING WE’RE MISSING WHERE WE ARE.
I used to be one of those people that ran around getting presents nobody needed, trying to make sure I didn’t forget anyone, baking & cooking up a storm and decorating anything and everything in sight. The result was, I was stressed out, my wallet was considerably lighter and I was too exhausted to enjoy anyone.
THE GREATEST GIFT IS THE GIFT OF PRESENCE.
My “craziness approach” shifted when we started traveling over the holidays and got away from the chaos. I began to experience the joy in the true meaning of the season. It wasn’t about presents, it was about presence. It was about showing up with love, kindness and being my best self. That’s what the people in my life wanted, not some silly gift I snagged on the fly.
Most of us don’t need more stuff. This is not to say we don’t have needs, but it isn’t about another scarf. I would much rather sit with a latte and connect with someone in a “real” conversation and catch-up, instead of what I used to call the 30 second snippet of the holiday parties. I used to leave those parties feeling ripped off and unfulfilled, not that every conversation needs to be deep and meaningful but it needs to be genuine and present.
Another point is the gift dance, what do you do and how do you feel when someone gives you a gift and you don’t have one to give back? Do you feel awkward or rush out and get them a gift too? I think the only necessary response is “thank you, how thoughtful.” We need to be better at receiving with gratitude and not guilt. The same goes for gifting to someone without any expectation of return, that is why it’s called a gift.
The holiday season can also be an emotional and lonely time for many people. You may be feeling the loss of a loved one or it may just be a difficult time. For those of you in this place, reach out to those around you. Be with other people, share with them how you’re feeling, don’t hide it thinking you need to be all Ho, Ho, Ho. If you don’t have a network then do some volunteering. A good way to get out of your head is to give back.
Slow down, take a breath, look around and fill your heart with gratitude of the season and the reason. Right Here Right Now there is no greater gift than the gift of you.
Wishing you a happy, loving and present holiday.
RHRN ~ Suzanne